T h i s a n a l y s i s h a s b e e n d o n e w i t h n o r e s e a r c h o r c a s e s t u d y o r s u r v e y o r a n y g o d d a m n w i k i p e d i a s e a r c h.
D o n o t u s e t h i s a s e v i d e n c e i f y o u a r e t r y i n g t o s o u n d s m a r t.
-J F J.
Question number one, if I may begin with such subtlety, is how many times does the topic of introversion, extroversion, and which side of that ridiculous spectrum you sit on, come into conversation?
Personally, it has become almost a weekly occurrence. For one, it's not really enough for some people to even give a second thought to it. And secondly, it could just be my own fascination with peoples relation and feelings towards these terms. Throughout these conversations I have noticed, sometimes as an eaves-dropper and other times bringing it up in a group, a few things that make me question the legitimacy of these two boxes.
What always gets me first is the contradiction between an online persona when addressing issue, compared to in a social scenario (meaning face-to-face...;) lol). Often times online, you will see phrases such as "outgoing, sociable, talkative, so on and so forth. Conversely, It is almost the exact opposite when talking about this over coffee, or drinks. Often times people are quick to refer to themselves as introverted.
What I chalk this up to is a natural human tendency to be versatile. We want to be able to do a lot of things and appeal to a lot people. It can be beneficial to present yourself as an introverted, quiet homebody in the middle of a social setting. Just like it can be helpful to not look like you spend all your time surfing the web -- as you add another update to your friend finder account.
What usually happens after the initial discussion on the subject is my observation process. One of my favourite things to do in a bar is make way to a corner and just watch. Even in a setting where talking and acting in an extroverted manner is expected, you still see natural tendencies shine through. Hesitancy in making the first move towards either gender, lack of assertiveness ordering drinks, and picking at bottle labels are all visible signs of a lack of comfort.
Yet, these tendencies are surprisingly inconsistent in a lot of people. One day to the next can illuminate a completely different dominant mannerism in that person from your first impression. How many people have you seen go from the happiest in the world, to tired and phased out or simply borderline depressed. All within a weekend! Oftentimes there is no real reason for that change, it's just how humans work.
Thus based on this (lack of) analysis, I have come to the (in)definite conclusion that instead of fitting ourselves in to a box labeled introversion or extroversion, we are just all sitting at various levels of bi-polarity. People who are most stable in regard to emotions, energy levels, mood and expression can be on the one extreme, and people who are straight up bi-polar are on the other. Somewhere stuck in between those sidelines is you. And your position isn't locked in by any means. You should wake up excited every morning that you are not confined to the person you were yesterday, that you are a different person than you were yesterday, and that it could be by the week, day, hour or minute that you will travel along both directions of that line of self. Don't say you are extroverted or introverted, rather, tell me how you feel at this exact moment in time. And we will go from there.
Always I remain,
John F. Johansen